Idhu daan vazhkaiya,
Oru thunai daan thevaiya?
Manam yedho yennaye kerkirade....?!
[Is this life,
Is a partner in life required?
My heart keeps questioning me....?!]
A tamil song from Ayirathil Oruvan - 'malai neram'. One of my favourite melodies. And this does make me question if marriage is a must in life?
There are many jokes as to how the guy has to put up with his wife's taunting, nagging and expenditures. Many about how husbands can be insensitive louts, lazy creatures and TV hogging irresponsibly critters.
Is this all required?
Is a companion necessary in life?
Can't we enjoy life with friends, work and family, just like we do normally when we are unmarried? Why does a person need a marriage to be happy? When married, we have to have kids. The cycle goes on...
Can't a person who wants to be single, be single? Just because he/she wants to be single? If a person does not see any point in marriage/companionship, is that person unsettled? Does having a partner make you settled?
Why?
I feel happy being me. Being with myself and my friends and my family. I share what I want with my friends. My family supports me. I work so I support myself. Why should I have a partner if I dont feel the need to have one? Why should I force my presence on someone else whom I don't want and make the other person miserable, too?
I guess one thing that unsettles single people is other people thinking that they need a partner. Its that other people can't swallow the idea that they are happy being single.
You can be there for yourself. You are troubling no one else. You, as a unit, are complete.
Yet there is a school of thought that believes that you need someone. That for everyone, there is someone made, that we are one half of someone else, and once we find that someone else, we become complete.
Thus there are 2 completely different schools of thought...each believing they are right.
The partner club calls the singles club selfish and the singles club calls the partner club clingy.
Who is right, who isn't?
Oru thunai daan thevaiya?
Manam yedho yennaye kerkirade....?!
[Is this life,
Is a partner in life required?
My heart keeps questioning me....?!]
A tamil song from Ayirathil Oruvan - 'malai neram'. One of my favourite melodies. And this does make me question if marriage is a must in life?
There are many jokes as to how the guy has to put up with his wife's taunting, nagging and expenditures. Many about how husbands can be insensitive louts, lazy creatures and TV hogging irresponsibly critters.
Is this all required?
Is a companion necessary in life?
Can't we enjoy life with friends, work and family, just like we do normally when we are unmarried? Why does a person need a marriage to be happy? When married, we have to have kids. The cycle goes on...
Can't a person who wants to be single, be single? Just because he/she wants to be single? If a person does not see any point in marriage/companionship, is that person unsettled? Does having a partner make you settled?
Why?
I feel happy being me. Being with myself and my friends and my family. I share what I want with my friends. My family supports me. I work so I support myself. Why should I have a partner if I dont feel the need to have one? Why should I force my presence on someone else whom I don't want and make the other person miserable, too?
I guess one thing that unsettles single people is other people thinking that they need a partner. Its that other people can't swallow the idea that they are happy being single.
You can be there for yourself. You are troubling no one else. You, as a unit, are complete.
Yet there is a school of thought that believes that you need someone. That for everyone, there is someone made, that we are one half of someone else, and once we find that someone else, we become complete.
Thus there are 2 completely different schools of thought...each believing they are right.
The partner club calls the singles club selfish and the singles club calls the partner club clingy.
Who is right, who isn't?
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