The brutal rape and assault on Delhi girl Damini was deplorable. It was an invasion of decency, privacy and civilized behaviour by the men who did it. everyone has focused on what the poor girl had to go through and how the men, ooops! wait, the boys treated her. They beat her to death after raping her. Calling them animals would insult the animals. They are barbarians.
She died after a brave attempt at life, but had sustained too many serious imjuries to vital organs to really stay alive. So mercifully death wrapped her arms around her and took her to a safe place.
Enter the politicians and the news media of the day. Politicians' varying comments on it ranging from making an anti rape law named after her and then others saying that she has crossed the 'Lakshman rekha' and so invited doom. Then again others saying that women who are indecent should expect such treatment to be meted out to them.
No one has given kudos to the only man in the whole scene - the guy who was with her at that time and tried to protect her. Who, even after the event, tried his best to protect her and get her treated ignoring his own injuries and condition.
This is a clear case where there is apathy not only for action, but also for respect to individuals. These 2 people were thrown naked on the road after suffering so many injuries and indignities. Our country instead decides which is the best and most flowery way to comemorate the girl's death and give it as much air time as possible.
The underlying issues of safety in cities and respect to women and people in general is conveniently ignored in this whole tamasha. For, it has become an air time tamasha...so much of bruhaha and as usual nothing gets done!
O just switch off your television sets! Think about how you can change this situation. And do it. Candle lit marches are sooo not done! If there wasnt any media coverage of this march, would the people still hold these kind of things? I doubt.
Instead of condemning all men, think about that one guy who tried to protect her. Has anyone done anything or even said anything to him. Now, that's a man! Really kudos to him! I applaud his bravery and also his maturity in keeping his needs secondary to hers. I hope he maintains his dignity throughout and doesnt go beserk in the media frenzy that will cloud him now that she is dead and the media vultures will want to know the gory details. (Already today's newapaper has one of this as headlines).
There was an interesting insight by one of the socilogists in the panel in CNN IBN tha really got my goat. She went on to say that women in India have been suppressed and that they follow the patriarch of the family. While that may be true in some cases, not all cases are like that. Today's urban woman, and yes our victim was also one of those, is assertive enough to tell the man of the hoouse to shut up and mind his own business if need be, subtly or otherwise. Like I once heard a woman in a movie say, 'Men are the head of the family, but women are the neck on which the head rests. We can turn the head which ever way we want.' I guess most women in the world know that :-D
Just because some men are barbarians not all men are. But men do need to realise that if any woman has style and attitude and is bold enough to flaunt it, she is not asking to be molested or raped. She need not be subjugated and neither is it the man's duty to show who is sexually superior - by force. They not only have an overdose of testosterone but are also perverted in their thoughts and attitudes. These men should be chemically castrated. Or otherwise too!
Men in this country need to appreciate that women can wear what they want and let them be. There are so many men who show their chests off hairy adn disgusting. Could we please wax their chest hair publicly? Just because we dont like it? They too dress inappropriately and show off their underwears. Could we also undress them and have them walk naked on the roads? Saying it is easy but the fact is women are physically weaker.
People in this country need to develop a decent attitude. Its not the dress that women wear but the eyes which undress the women in this country. That is actually the main problem. Sometimes, like in this one, the hands and actions follow the eyes.
Besides, I feel it is wrong to say that in India, women are not given enough respect. Is it lack of respect that there are so many women politicians in this country? Jayalalithaa in the south, Mamata Banerjee in the east. Mayawati and Sushma Swaraj in the north. Top it all, the neck of the country, President of the Congress Party Madam Sonia is directing the head of the country (the poor man!). With so many women in leading positions, its actually quite pathetic that the common woman of this country has to face quite an uncommon amount of physical and mental torment.
Instead of quibbling about what name to give the law, can the people please make the law and more important - implement it, please?
She died after a brave attempt at life, but had sustained too many serious imjuries to vital organs to really stay alive. So mercifully death wrapped her arms around her and took her to a safe place.
Enter the politicians and the news media of the day. Politicians' varying comments on it ranging from making an anti rape law named after her and then others saying that she has crossed the 'Lakshman rekha' and so invited doom. Then again others saying that women who are indecent should expect such treatment to be meted out to them.
No one has given kudos to the only man in the whole scene - the guy who was with her at that time and tried to protect her. Who, even after the event, tried his best to protect her and get her treated ignoring his own injuries and condition.
This is a clear case where there is apathy not only for action, but also for respect to individuals. These 2 people were thrown naked on the road after suffering so many injuries and indignities. Our country instead decides which is the best and most flowery way to comemorate the girl's death and give it as much air time as possible.
The underlying issues of safety in cities and respect to women and people in general is conveniently ignored in this whole tamasha. For, it has become an air time tamasha...so much of bruhaha and as usual nothing gets done!
O just switch off your television sets! Think about how you can change this situation. And do it. Candle lit marches are sooo not done! If there wasnt any media coverage of this march, would the people still hold these kind of things? I doubt.
Instead of condemning all men, think about that one guy who tried to protect her. Has anyone done anything or even said anything to him. Now, that's a man! Really kudos to him! I applaud his bravery and also his maturity in keeping his needs secondary to hers. I hope he maintains his dignity throughout and doesnt go beserk in the media frenzy that will cloud him now that she is dead and the media vultures will want to know the gory details. (Already today's newapaper has one of this as headlines).
There was an interesting insight by one of the socilogists in the panel in CNN IBN tha really got my goat. She went on to say that women in India have been suppressed and that they follow the patriarch of the family. While that may be true in some cases, not all cases are like that. Today's urban woman, and yes our victim was also one of those, is assertive enough to tell the man of the hoouse to shut up and mind his own business if need be, subtly or otherwise. Like I once heard a woman in a movie say, 'Men are the head of the family, but women are the neck on which the head rests. We can turn the head which ever way we want.' I guess most women in the world know that :-D
Just because some men are barbarians not all men are. But men do need to realise that if any woman has style and attitude and is bold enough to flaunt it, she is not asking to be molested or raped. She need not be subjugated and neither is it the man's duty to show who is sexually superior - by force. They not only have an overdose of testosterone but are also perverted in their thoughts and attitudes. These men should be chemically castrated. Or otherwise too!
Men in this country need to appreciate that women can wear what they want and let them be. There are so many men who show their chests off hairy adn disgusting. Could we please wax their chest hair publicly? Just because we dont like it? They too dress inappropriately and show off their underwears. Could we also undress them and have them walk naked on the roads? Saying it is easy but the fact is women are physically weaker.
People in this country need to develop a decent attitude. Its not the dress that women wear but the eyes which undress the women in this country. That is actually the main problem. Sometimes, like in this one, the hands and actions follow the eyes.
Besides, I feel it is wrong to say that in India, women are not given enough respect. Is it lack of respect that there are so many women politicians in this country? Jayalalithaa in the south, Mamata Banerjee in the east. Mayawati and Sushma Swaraj in the north. Top it all, the neck of the country, President of the Congress Party Madam Sonia is directing the head of the country (the poor man!). With so many women in leading positions, its actually quite pathetic that the common woman of this country has to face quite an uncommon amount of physical and mental torment.
Instead of quibbling about what name to give the law, can the people please make the law and more important - implement it, please?
