Monday, 23 January 2012

The woman of the Aquarian Age

Today' girls... They seem to be far ahead of their male counterparts. Surging ahead. There are women in every field. The suffragettes must be having the time of their lives - saying I told you so! to the males of this world. Women are better than men. Women can do what men can... except probably go topless and that too has been done and is done everyday in the Bondi beaches of this world ;) and of course stand and pee...and some other basic stuff that i shall desist from mentioning...
But  wonder if its the economic independence, or the fact that women these days are more educated or have just times moved forward? Women these days are so much more independent. So much more open, aggressive and assertive. They smoke, drink, play chess and I don't know.. do most things better than men. Or as good as men.
Wives have always helped their men. But now men are more open about it. Men have started accepting their feminine side. They seem to accept that they need their women and that they are what they are because of their women.
Today's women are comfortable with their relationships. The times when another woman is a rival and will steal their man from under their noses if she is more beautiful signifies insecurity. We watch women just as eagerly as men do... 'Cause unfortunately, there are less handsome, eye catching men than women! Besides, we do appreciate beauty in all forms. Even if it's another woman. Besides, there has been a research done on the beauty. It is said that beautiful girls give birth to girls who become more beautiful than their mothers. But unfortunately the same cannot be said about the boys who are born to beautiful women. They, unfortunately, don't get more handsome than their fathers... (sigh!). So this does not make us bisexuals or lesbians - just connoisseurs of visual beauty. :-)
A woman looks at another woman's dressing style, carriage, accessories, quirks....ahem.... a lot many things, really! Who better to teach a woman than another woman! A man looks at her more or less in the same way, but for different reasons. :-D

Another strange trend is that now, when you want to look for brides, you ask if the girl smokes? Does she drink? Questions of this sort were never even thought of. They were generally reserved for only men.
The core values that a woman wants is still the same. Women still want love, life, children, family etc. But they also want a career, financial, social and emotional independence. She also is not ready to compromise. She wants it and she wants it all. Or not at all as the case maybe. Guess that is why the rates of divorces in the country have risen :(
Today's woman needs to watch that she does not get carried away by all that independence. She is physically weaker than the man. God has made us like that and for a reason. But mentally and emotionally, we are far superior to men. We must take this knowledge and use it to our best. Or I surely pity the men! And definitely the women.
Woman should not become Woe to man. For, every woman needs a man just as she needs herself.

Tuesday, 10 January 2012

My question is....

Idhu daan vazhkaiya,
Oru thunai daan thevaiya?
Manam yedho yennaye kerkirade....?!
[Is this life,
Is a partner in life required?
My heart keeps questioning me....?!]

A tamil song from Ayirathil Oruvan - 'malai neram'. One of my favourite melodies.  And this does make me question if marriage is a must in life?
There are many jokes as to how the guy has to put up with his wife's taunting, nagging and expenditures. Many about how husbands can be insensitive louts, lazy creatures and TV hogging irresponsibly critters.
Is this all required?
Is a companion necessary in life?
Can't we enjoy life with friends, work and family, just like we do normally when we are unmarried? Why does a person need a marriage to be happy? When married, we have to have kids. The cycle goes on...
Can't a person who wants to be single, be single? Just because he/she wants to be single? If a person does not see any point in marriage/companionship, is that person unsettled? Does having a partner make you settled?
Why?
I feel happy being me. Being with myself and my friends and my family. I share what I want with my friends. My family supports me. I work so I support myself. Why should I have a partner if I dont feel the need to have one? Why should I force my presence on someone else whom I don't want and make the other person miserable, too?
I guess one thing that unsettles single people is other people thinking that they need a partner. Its that other people can't swallow the idea that they are happy being single.
You can be there for yourself. You are troubling no one else. You, as a unit, are complete.
Yet there is a school of thought that believes that you need someone. That for everyone, there is someone made, that we are one half of someone else, and once we find that someone else, we become complete.
Thus there are 2 completely different schools of thought...each believing they are right.
The partner club calls the singles club selfish and the singles club calls the partner club clingy.
Who is right, who isn't?

Tuesday, 3 January 2012

thin and thick

Skins come in 3 types - thick, thin and mixed. Now, you might be wondering if I am off my rocker.
:)
No. I ain't. Read on...
The thin skin categories are those people who are sensitive. Who seem to define that word. Most things they are touchy about. You say anything about them, they get offended. They pout. Then despite yourself you tease them, make fun of them and then say a sorry or pamper them. Or get into subtle leg pulling.
The next variety is the thick skinned variety. These are complete caricatures. They don't care. They sometimes dont get it even. But then with them, you dont need to bother so much either. They are the easiest.
The third one is the trickiest of the lot. Most of us are a variation of this. These guys, well! Beware! You see, they get touchy, but sometimes you just cant figure out their touchy topics. Or else they warn you beforehand - Don't talk about this, Or else! Some dont bother with the warning, they just sulk! Losers!
They are also thick skinned about most things. So much so that you might put them in that category. But these creatures - ah! well! They explode at times. Then they sulk. Then they get off their sulking spree...
Like some kind of a dormant volcano. But when peace arrives - ah! The garden of Eden will be put to shame by these peaceable creatures.
So.. Whats your skin type???
;-)