Wednesday, 6 January 2016

Positivity


It is something we take for granted. It’s the most intangible asset an employee can have. It is the most ignored aspect in the world. It’s not just in the professional world, but in life as well.
Its absence is felt much greater than its presence is appreciated. In fact, absence of positivity is dangerous. It can erode teams, individual and the morale of people who work in the team. Lack of a positive outlook in our professional life helps to make us tie over difficult patches. It also helps us look at a problem in a better way looking to solve the problem and not to blame someone else for a problem. People become instruments to solve problems, not the reason for problems. The way we look for solutions change.
This does not mean that only positivity should be there. That would be naiveté. It would be calamitous. A healthy dose of realism and caution is required. Friction, after all, is quite important; else we would all be slipping and breaking our skulls.
Negativity at the work place makes you think less. It’s like a weighty burden on your shoulders. You drag your feet to work. You start talking about ‘other things’ when sitting with your colleagues for a coffee break. A break from work means you talk shopping, friends and which places have vacancies. Thinking about your work and improving in it is a thought that is galaxies away.
Such an employee is simply being there in the ‘now’ as he does not see himself in the future of that company. It even spreads. It’s a virus. Especially when someone in a lead position carries a negative attitude about him/her, then it’s detrimental to the entire team. The team is now different units. They do not function as a team. They are individuals who make up a team and do their different duties. They come to office and think of leaving. Finishing assigned tasks and leaving for the day so they can pursue their other life.
Companies should see to it that they address issues of leaders with negative attitudes.  Companies must introspect if these negativities are founded on fact or if the individual is negative by nature and always looks at a glass half empty. It may be possible, in that case, that there is a reason for all the negativity floating around. If it is because such influencers in the team are by nature negative, then the team may scatter and  the doers of the team will soon find alternate paths or may not perform to their best capabilities. The loss, ultimately, will be felt overall and may create a ripple effect.


Sunday, 3 January 2016

Pathankot, Pakistan and the common man

The Pathankot tragedy seems to be quite significant. Pakistani terrorists have started attacking our defense forces. How do they have such an insight into where our defenses are located? Okay fine. Google maps. Common knowledge. Fine. All that is good general knowledge on their behalf. But how come our folks were caught so unaware?
Such laxity on part of the ever vigilant brave Army folks is a little scary to say the least. Especially when these things are about national defense and warfare.
Why are Pakistani folks so intent on travelling to India with such destructive intents? Why such stealth? Why such evil intentions toward their once joined by the hip twin? Is it an inferiority complex? Is it an attempt to deny common history and remove India from the map?
Whatever the reason is, their attempts are hurtful. Their attempts speak of a nation that is so poor that its youth are forced to kill themselves over a couple of lakhs of money for their family. Going to India, destroying some part of the country is like earning the ultimate bonus. Plus you are told you will attain heaven if you become ‘shaheed’ for the cause of your nation and Islamic brothers. If not, you can serve your community in other ways. All of them, definitely, more violent, more destructive.
Such impressionable youth – their lives wasted away in hatred and death. Is a life of peace in our neighbouring country such a rarity? Is it such a foreign concept that parents don’t mind if one son’s life is sacrificed like this? A couple of lakhs at least will come their way and they can sustain the others in the family for a while longer. Is that attitude of the families?
Instead of letting terrorism flourish, why can’t our dear neighbours’  increase economic growth and activities around that region? I am sure more intelligent people than me must have thought about such things. I wonder what is stopping them from taking such steps. Okay, maybe because that means women also must be educated so that would not be palatable for such a male dominated country. But if that is the case, then the men would be more interested in getting educated and earning money through more peaceable ways. Even their parents would encourage such things. They would have money plus their children.
Or is war and infighting in this region more profitable to the powers that be?
People die in the process. So what? Its one of the most populous regions in the world. A couple of poor people die, So what?
Are we so callous in our outlook?
Why is peace and economic growth of places  in the LOC region taking a back seat? Always war. Always fighting. Don’t they really get bored of that? Can no one ever think that enough of all this fighting. Lets try and improve the place where we live. Lets love the place we are born in and improve it for the sake of our children? Doesn’t such positive thoughts not take shape in such regions? Or are they truly god forsaken?
Our dear Prime Minister Modi even gave a surprise visit to his counterpart in Pakistan to ensure peace. This incident is like a mockery to that polite act. Is Nawaz Shariff truly in control of the nation or are the terrorists and ISI and Military of Pakistan running a regime of hate that is stronger and has deeper roots which will always hold sway in that nation’s governance and relationship with India?
I wonder if Pakistan’s people realize how self-destructive this method of governance is. They are being held hostage by violence, terrorists and extremists in their own country. Quite a sad fact to live with about your own country.


Sunday, 5 October 2014

Men Women...society??


In every society woman is construed to be a temptress. One who is a lascivious creature designed to arouse men away from their duty. They are the ultimate distraction. Without a woman, many religions believe, that man would be complete. O well, he needs a woman to procreate with and satiate his base urges – i.e to have babies to increase his lineage and to have sex with. (Mostly in that order)

I am, sure many orthodox religions would agree to the basic concept of difference between men and women put as such.

Naturally when an argument is put in such a way, I would definitely beg to differ. The truth is such derivations have been made by a patriarchal society. Like some say, the history of winners is the one that is widely known. Its like the other side of the moon, so to speak. But we as people cannot discount the fact that women mostly form 50% of any population. Technically speaking, men and women form the human population. Therefore, how can 50% of the human race be evil? That, too, 50% of the same gender? Somewhat illogical, really.

The truth is as far as I know Hindu scriptures (and that’s not much really), it says that you must treat women with respect, for; they are your mother and later, your companions. They keep you companionship and women have also known to be active participants or even involved in the history of mankind. (Though seeing Sonia Gandhi, Mamata Banerjee and J. Jayalalithaa, one would wish women would keep to home and hearth and not enter politics!)

Men have certain duties and so do women. Both have rights and duties. It is more like a division of labour. Depends on who is translating that you understand how much importance to give to whom. But really, both of them deserve equal importance. A woman has as much voice as a man. Also, a man must be humble to attain heaven as much as a woman needs to be humble. Humility, intelligence, an allegiance to righteousness, equality, duty and responsibility is all there in our scriptures. These are all there for both men and women.

Some people always say that men and women are not equal. Women have always been superior. This can be taken both ways. But I suppose we should take away the gender bias and say that both men and women form part of the human race. Each of us as people have a duty towards the other. So instead of doing one upmanship, we must learn to understand that both are equal. Both are people. Respect the other. Both men and women crave a respectful existence. Once respect is removed from the equation, there is inequality. That is the source of all our men vs women debates.

Though I think I have oversimplified the problem, I have simply worked out the problem from my angle.

Monday, 4 August 2014

Toru Dutt & incidently the review of 'Le Journal de mademoiselle D'Arvers'


Toru Dutt is a prodigy who has been long forgotten. But she is the first Indian novelist who has ever written in English AND in French. She was born in the literary family of Dutts in Bengal. The last of 3 children of Govin Chunder Dutt. She had a brother and a sister – Abju & Aru, respectively. A curious, vivacious young girl who was adept at learning and whose curiosity to learn read and write consumed her till the end of her short life. She was adept in Sanskrit, English, French, German and of course Bengali. She was a proficient translator and translated many works of French to English. Though born a Hindu, she, converted to Christianity when she was 6 years old. Her writings reflect her Christian belief. She has also translated many works from Sanskrit.

Very little is known of her writings and she is most popularly known only as a poet for her famous poem ‘Our Casuarina Tree’ which is her most popular work. But this prodigy whose literary and cultural sensibilities were awakened at a very tender age of 13 wrote 2 novels – ‘Bianca’ and ‘Le Journal de Mademoiselle D’Arvers’ apart from the many translations. Her sister Aru was also as good a linguist and writer. Both sisters have translated a few French poems in an anthology known as ‘A Sheaf Gleaned From French Fields’. This was a joint venture by both the sisters. Unfortunately, the elder one was not alive to see it in print and Toru completed it after her death. The sisters loved each other a lot. They grew up in Nice, France and England and therefore could appreciate the literature and culture of the continent better than any Indian as they grew up immersed in it. Toru went to the continent when she was 13, ie: in 1869, when English literature was at its peak with poets like Shelley and Wordsworth, and of course my favourite – Emily Bronte; being her contemporaries. In fact in her French novel, ‘Le Journal de Mademoiselle D’Arvers’ , I do detect some traces of Emily Bronte’s work, ‘Wuthering Heights’ The love of Louis reflects the gentle and tender love Edgar Linton has for Catherine Earnshaw nee Linton. Unlike Emily’s heroine, though, Marguerite is a gentle woman and her love is deep and tender.  

Art and literature were very much appreciated and encouraged during that period of time. Toru and her sister blossomed in this environment. With the literary genes inherent in them, this was a fertile soil where it blossomed and gave beautiful fruit. Language was at their behest and they expressed themselves poignantly.

It is unfortunate that what brought them to Europe was primarily the death of their brother Abju. He died of consumption. Whenever you read this young author’s work, death is forever present, like a shadow. Toru was surrounded by death from a very early age. This is reflected in her works as they are somewhat biographical in nature. Her sister, Aru, too, died when Toru was just 19. She herself died when she was 21. Alas! Literature lost a beautiful contributor!

Her works are poignant and when you know about the author, it is all the more brilliant that this writing has originated from the pen of one who was so young. There is a certain maturity in the emotions of her characters. Though it shows that this was written at a time when women were not so aware of things. Like when I read the English translations of the French novel, I found that the author was very naïve about facts of childbirth and in some instances of nursing a baby. Her characters definitely touch a chord emotionally and are mature. But death seems to shadow them at every turn. In fact the major theme can be said to be death. Though she never had the chance to fall in love (or maybe who knew! She had an unrequited love! For the way she describes the female protagonist when in love, she is somewhat apt in some of her descriptions of a girl in love). A girl who loves, loses and learns to love again. A deep and wholesome love. Though the superstitions of the character are somewhat Indian, and that betrays the fact that it was written by an indian authoress. But such superstitions were prevalent in the west too. :)

The male characters are also very well fleshed out. The father figure here is very supportive of his daughter and it reflects the relationship she shared with her own father. It also reflects how fathers in that era were very dominant figures in a girls life. This book opens our eyes to the fact that women were protected creatures in the 19th century. They were under the protection of their fathers when young and soon, but very soon, they moved to the protection offered by their husbands.  The woman plays the role of care taker and is kind and gentle. The character of Madame Gosserelle is an interesting one and shows that though Toru was young, she had seen enough of the different characters in her short but informative life. This book throws to light her very un-Indian upbringing. In the nineteenth century not only was she multi lingual and an expert in all the languages she knew, but she was also well versed in her understanding of human nature. She is a rare gem in the literary world. I appreciate her more because she was not only very young but that she was a woman. Yes you can call me feminist. But this young Indian had a very great understanding of human nature and she had the ability to be articulate and poignant enough to pen her thoughts. It is strange to know that despite having a supportive father who appreciated her literary genius and in fact fed the fire of her curiosity, she never revealed her novels to him. It was after she died that her father discovered his daughter’s works.

Perhaps her novels would have given her father a feeling of how stifled she felt in her father’s love for her. How stifling it was for her to sit in side 4 walls when her heart and mind were out there in the wild fields of France and England. Perhaps her mind was too agile to keep up with her weakening body because even as she wrote her novels, she herself was consumed by the disease that had eaten up her siblings. The dreaded consumption. What a devastation to the old parents who had to watch each one of his talented children die one by one and still be alive to bury them and live amidst the ruins of their young lives!

But as you read the works of Toru Dutt, you see a maturity, a vast understanding and a certain peace in death. As though she welcomes it like sleep after a tired day. It is as though in death, she is going to live far better than she did in life. Free from the pains and anxieties of life – knowing and being with her friends whom she missed in life. It is as though by dying, she is going to a happier and freer place – a place where she can roam around freely and happily. Where her heart, body, mind and soul are in sync and as agile as she wants them to be and with people whom she loves.

Monday, 21 July 2014

Mind Magic

Like a river our minds flow,
like liquid metal it feels.
Fluid, yet somewhat weighty.
Its all matter rolled into one
but that really does not matter.
It flows fast,
Though it does have
the ways of a glacier.
Its ways are numerous,
infinite are its workings.
but sometimes,
it feels like a snowball
gathering and building itself
with time.
yet some minds,
disintegrate and regenerate
with intensity, frequeny & intense frequency
at different frequencies.
amazing are the tendencies
of different minds at different levels.
Discover yours
Delve into others'
discover it all,
Simultaneously!

Monday, 12 May 2014

A wriggling tiny irritating worm called hope...


What should I do?

A constant question I keep asking

Year after year.
Every year, I feel I have found the answer.

Yet the next year,

I am at it all over again!

I am never quite sure if this is what I want the next year!

I dither and dawdle

I try to be brave and energetic

About all my new projects and attempts.

But somehow this time,

Its hard to get up.

This time, the wound cut a little deeper.

This time,

I am a little more lost.

Its a little more darker.

But somewhere,

I see there is still a small, tiny light shining

It seems to be beckoning to me.

At least that’s what I think so.

That is the only thing that keeps me going

Somewhat...

I think its called hope.

I think it means that

Somehow something will work out.

...and it will always be for the best...

Wednesday, 10 April 2013

Nico - the true guy!

I have lost track of time. Feb 8th is the last time I was really lazy, woke up at 10:00 in the morning and did next to nothing. Ever since then, the days have jumbled one into another and I have lost count. I wake up at 7.30 in the morning, brush my teeth and then check the house to find where Nick has pooped. clean that and then go down to make his breakfast and my coffee. As he gobbles his breakfast, I have my divine nectar and then am off for a walk with my 4-legged f(r)iend. We gambol around the layout and I try my best to exhaust him. He happily checks out and tries his best to jump on all the pretty girls and the sari clad women he meets. When he was younger and smaller, pretty girls would come by his way and coo, 'He's sooo cute!!!!!!!!!! Can I pet him...?? OOOO my cutie pie....what's your name?' And me, his spokesperson obligingly supplies it - Nico. 'OOOO Nico Noci cute doggy cute doggy....so cute!' He, meanwhile wallows in the attention and gives a big goofy doggie grin and as they let him go, tries again to jump at them and I the cruel mistress, pulls his leash and says 'Enough Nico, lets go!'. This was the pattern almost every day and when my parents came, I said, 'You know this dog of mine loves women. Anyone who has XX chromosome, he's off being cute for them!' My dad did not believe me. He smiled at me indulgently thinking his girl is simply proud of her pup. After all how can males of all species run behind women? But my little pup proved him wrong! He was stunned when he came walking with me and Nico. Just outside our apartment as one of the girls clambered out to go to work, Nico ran off to meet and greet her. She obligingly cuddled him and petted him and asked, 'Does he bite?' I replied, not really, and she continued petting her. My dad was holding him (those days he was small enough to be held) and was too shocked to know that I was right!
My little pup is a celebrity amongst the women of this layout and there are many of those since there are 2 girls PG accommodations right next to my apartment. So once when Dad and Mom took him out for a walk, they passed the dosa camp. This place is full of people of ages and strata. kids, dads, moms, girls and boys of all ages drop by here after 4 o'clock in the evening. This place has people spilling over to the sidewalk and across the road till around 10:00 in the night when he closes. So Ma and Da were taking Nico around this place for a walk. A group of pretty 20+ girls were talking and spotted this little pup. They swooped down on him and started petting him. He was so happy that he obliged them and let them hold him. They rewarded him by taking pics and cuddling him. He gave them such a wide grin and his puppy yelps of happiness. It was a win-win situation. He loves being the star among women.
He is also quiet when he looks out and admires his women. We had almost finished our walk. My husband and I were almost home and we were opposite the girls PG when one of the girls was coming towards us. Nico sat down on the road. We knew what to expect, so we simply waited. I was holding the leash and my husband watched him as his eyes followed the girl. She was good looking in a neat and clean way, well dressed and smart. As she passed him, Nico's head swiveled and his eyes followed her till she disappeared down the road. Then my regal flirt got up and walked back. Who said he only jumps at women? He can simply watch them and admire their grace and beauty as he sits on the road.